Visa vya Utoaji Mimba

Nina umri wa miaka 23 na nina mtoto wa miezi 6. Nilianza kupata hedhi mara tu baada ya kujifungua, hivyo sikujua kwamba nilipata mimba tena hadi nilipoenda hospitalini na ikathibitishwa. Nilipomuuliza daktari wangu, nilipatiwa tembe za Ma-Kare. Nilimeza kimoja siku ya kwanza, na vinne siku ya pili, na vilinifanyia kazi kwa mafanikio. Asanteni sana kwa msaada wenu.

I was using implant for 3 years and after removing in one month, my husband came around at home from his work and we met sexually. He told me he isn't ready and we had to terminate it. It took us time to agree, but lastly we visit a medical center where I was given Misoprostol sublingually. Evacuation was done successfully and after I used contraceptves pills to prevent pregnancy.

I have a friend who is about 2 months and a few weeks pregnant, and she decided to have an abortion. She went to see a classmate who took her to a man who, according to her, sells effective abortion pills (Chinese medication with antibiotics). According to the man’s instructions, she was supposed to take the pills early in the morning before sunrise, and by the third day, the pregnancy would come out.After the consultation, my pregnant friend followed the treatment for three days, but unfortunately, nothing happened (no results). Things started to get worse: lower abdominal pain, constant fever, vomiting...Given how serious the situation was, we decided to go to the hospital, but because we didn’t have the money, another woman, a former midwife, prescribed a different medication: MISOFEM (4 tablets), which based on my research, helps complete a failed abortion.We bought the medicine, which cost more than 20,000 CFA francs.The next morning, she started the treatment at 6 a.m. with the first two tablets, then took the remaining two at 8 a.m., hoping to expel the contents by sunset, just as the woman had instructed. But unfortunately, there were no satisfying results—just abdominal pain and vomiting throughout the day.Panicked, we contacted the woman again and she told us to wait until the next day, but still nothing happened.Desperate, she and I decided to go see a doctor...

Singeweza kuhesabu siku zangu baada ya siku yangu ya mwisho ya hedhi mwezi wa Februari. Hebu fikiria, hedhi yangu haikufika mwezi uliofuata ambao ulikuwa Machi. Nilihisi wasiwasi kwa sababu nilijua sikuwa tayari kuwa mama wa mtoto wa tatu hivi karibuni, na mume wangu pia hakufurahishwa na habari hizo.Hapa Ghana, ni vigumu sana kupata dawa za kutoa mimba kirahisi isipokuwa daktari akupatie au mfamasia akupatie. Kwa hivyo ilikuwa changamoto kidogo kwa mimi na mume wangu kushughulikia hali hiyo.Nilimtafuta rafiki yangu mfamasia na akanifikia. Nilifanya utoaji mimba uliokuwa na mafanikio bila matatizo yoyote. Hata hivyo, kuna nyakati nimewahi kutumia tembe za kutoa mimba nikiwa sijapata mimba, lakini kwa sababu ya mwitikio wa mwili wangu, nilidhani nimepata mimba. Nilipata maumivu madogo ya tumbo bila kutokwa damu kabisa.Ninashukuru tu kwamba dawa hizi ni salama kwa wanawake wengi.

Hi,I’m Valentia. I’m pregnant by my boyfriend, and he says he’s not ready yet to be a father for the second time. He says he has too many responsibilities since he already has a child with another woman. I just told him I’m pregnant. He says he won’t be able to take care of it, so I have to find a solution to this problem.

Haikuwa uzoefu mzuri hata kidogo. Nililazimika kuomba utoaji mimba baada ya kupata kuharibika kwa mimba kusikokamilika nikiwa na ujauzito wa miezi 2. Nilianza kupata damu nyingi na maumivu makali. Kwa hiyo nilikuwa na shauku ya kujua cha kufanya, ndipo nikatafuta kwenye Google hadi nikakutana kwa bahati na ukurasa wa safe2choose. Mshauri alinionyeshea taarifa zote nilizohitaji, lakini nililazimika kurudi kwenye kliniki yangu ya karibu kwa ajili ya Njia ya Kunyonya kwa sababu bado kulikuwa na tishu mwilini mwangu. Nilidhani kwa muda mfupi kwamba safe2choose ni shirika linalotoa msaada wa kisaikolojia kwa watu waliopoteza mimba zao kwa bahati mbaya, lakini hata hivyo ushauri niliopata ulikuwa wa msaada.Asante safe2choose.

Jina langu ni Rajni. Ninaishi India. Nina mume na binti. Tunapendana sana. Hatukutaka kupata mtoto mwingine, lakini nilipata mimba. Wote wawili tuliamua kuzungumzia jambo hilo na nikameza kidonge cha kutoa mimba. Sasa imekamilika, na niko salama.

In India, Tanya and her husband agreed that they were happy with their current life and another child would cause them financial strain, which is why they looked for safe abortion options and chose safe2choose to terminate their pregnancy. This is her testimonial and her abortion story.

Ni jambo la kutuliza na kufariji sana kujua kuwa kuna mashirika kama safe2choose ambayo yako tayari kukusaidia. Mara tu niliposoma jibu lao kwa barua pepe yangu, nilihisi nafuu kubwa na nilihisi kana kwamba wako karibu nami, wakiniambia kila kitu kitakuwa sawa. Walinipa uhakikisho kwamba watakuwepo kusaidia na kukusaidia katika kila hatua ya safari, popote ulipo duniani. Nilikuwa na wasiwasi kwa wiki kadhaa, lakini wakati pekee nilipoanza kujisikia vizuri ni pale nilipohisi faraja ya safe2choose ikinizunguka.

I really had no clue what to expect with an online organization that helps you with such a sensitive situation, but it exceeded my expectations by far. General information was given and every outcome and what to expect was covered. When I had concerns, I was responded to via email within 24hrs (of course I had a crazy time difference being in South Korea but I always woke up to a speedy reply). I couldn’t have asked for a better company and support; it felt like the counselor was here with me.

Nilipohitaji kutoa mimba salama, nilitafuta chaguo mbalimbali kwenye mtandao na nikapata safe2choose. Nilwasiliana na washauri kwa barua pepe na nikaanza mashauriano mtandaoni, kisha nikazungumza nao kupitia gumzo la moja kwa moja. Washauri walikuwa wema sana na walinionyesha heshima kabla, wakati wa, na baada ya mchakato. Baada ya uzoefu huu na safe2choose, bila shaka ningewapendekeza kwa mtu yeyote anayehitaji kutoa mimba salama.

I don’t have much to say, just that safe2choose exceeded my expectations with a mixture of their services and their clarity with medications and their kindness. I thank you guys a lot, in my case I contacted them via email and I did an online consultation.

Allow me to begin by saying for years I wanted to advocate but feared being ostracized and/or hurting my potential to advance socially and economically, but now with the overturning of Roe v Wade I realize I must speak out and stand up for individual rights, freedoms and dignity. I had an abortion when I was around 15 years old, but it started long before then. . . When I was in grade school (probably 2nd or 3rd grade) an uncle convinced our babysitter he had my parent’s permission to take me with him to work – Not! We did go to his work site; however, he later took me to his place where he sexually fondled me. He then took me to the restaurant where my mother was working. I recall being afraid, holding tightly to my pants. Mom and I went to the bathroom where I told her what happened. She immediately made an excuse to my uncle, left work and took me to the hospital where a male doctor put me on a table, pulled down my panties and yanked my legs into the air. What was happening to me? This was all so scary and no one was telling me anything. We then returned home where the police and my father showed up to arrest the uncle. Lights were flashing, father was ready to kill, it was like an angry disturbed beehive and so very disturbingly scary for a 3rd grader. Dad told me years later the officer had said something about giving him his gun were he not an officer. I was kept at home, not allowed to go to school. Finally, we went to court. Mom’s side of the family, so I was later told by my father when I was older, wanted charges dropped – after all I was fine. Dad, said “No.” I recall swearing on the Bible and taking the stand. Little girls didn’t say such things or have the words for what was being asked, so I just pointed to my private parts. It was all so scary. Uncle went to jail; news was printed in the papers and I went back to school. I felt all eyes were on me. The teachers were very careful with me, children whispered and pointed. Fast forward to adolescence. Mom and dad divorced. However, dad divorced not only mom but anything and anyone to do with her. He would not set foot in the same town, he no longer sent Birthday or Christmas Cards, he did not visit or invite me to visit him or my twin brother. I recall having hitch hiked 150 miles round trip just to see him (I missed him) and perceived my reception as one of a dissident, trouble maker. I made up a lie that I was in town as part of a school trip, he and my twin brother knew this to be untrue, and allowed me to get back on the highway to hitch hike back home to mom (what kind of father does this?!). As an adult I came to understand cutting himself off from all things “mom” was the only way my father could have a life, and I’m glad now that he made that choice. It must have been a difficult one, yet the right one for him and my twin; at least he and my twin broke the cycle and established solid families of virtuous character, but “Why” I ask myself was I painted as “white trash” and abandoned rather than supported and loved? It was during this time my mother remarried and her husband attempted to have his way with me sexually while she was working the night shift. I ran. The next day she stood with him, stating it was a misunderstanding. She then sent me, from MT to CA, to live with and care for her paraplegic, alcoholic brother. That did not last long. He had already lost numerous caretakers secondary to his being cantankerous. Social Services stepped in and I was sent to various relatives in different states until mom was able to locate another relative, a traveling salesman, who agreed to transport me back to MT. The trip required an overnight stay at a hotel. I recall him speaking with his wife, my aunt’s daughter, on the phone telling her we were fine and he’d gotten two rooms. That, of course, was a lie. One room, one bed. I felt trapped and afraid. I was at his mercy, having no other way home, no money or resources, or others I could turn to. Back then adolescents weren’t informed how to speak up or to who. I don’t recall much about that night but the next day I was so pressed up against the passenger side door I thought it might spring open at any moment and dump me onto the asphalt at 80 mph. I ran. I ran to a boy I knew in the college dorms in a nearby town. I felt “safe” to some small degree. I stayed with him in his dorm while he completed final exams. Yes, we had sex, and after finals he took me home, back to mother. Later I discovered I was pregnant and, with my agreement, mom arranged for an abortion. What you’re not hearing here is the discord and dysfunction of living with mother and having no or little support from nurturing others. For instance, one time we had an argument as parents and children often do. I imagine her reaction was to show she was going to get the “upper hand.” She reacted by having the police show up at a birthday party one block from our house, after having spoken with my girlfriend’s mom to assure her I was there and everything was fine, to pick me up as a runaway. Can you imagine police showing up at your daughter’s birthday party to arrest a friendly young girl? The parents were shocked and the girls were crying as I was led to the squad car; that’s one party she’ll never forget! I was jailed overnight. Dad was no help, he said “I had made my bed. . .” Teachers came to my rescue. Rather than go to a “Girls Home” I rented two upstairs bedrooms from someone, worked 20 hours/week and put myself through high school. I wasn’t going to give my stepfather a second crack at me nor take mom’s abuse and no one else, including my father, were coming forward. I was an adolescent without nurturing support to grow into a wholesome adult. Adolescents do not have life experiences to draw from. People likely saw a dissident, troubled teen. They did not see a young girl struggling to grow and survive in a discordant environment. To have brought a life into the world when I was not capable of caring for myself would only harm that life and mine. Statistics indicate it takes three generations to overcome domestic violence. I chose to end this cycle and create a life for myself that would have worth not only for myself but the world around me. As such, I was eventually able to garner an advanced degree in health care that served humanity. Teen pregnancies are fraught with health, social and economic consequences that devastate our society. Imposing long reaching psychological trauma upon an already abused teen is unconscionable and in no way serves humanity. I’m reminded of Generals who sacrifice lives for the many. I, and others like me, are no different. It took decades and much counseling to overcome, develop, heal and grow; a process that may not have happened were I to carry and give birth at such a tender, vulnerable age. We need more compassion and understanding. Yet, I will say I believe more guidelines may be useful. Don’t overturn Roe v Wade, provide guidelines when ending a pregnancy may be legal. It provides protection for society at large and is a very personal socio-economic health decision that should rest with the patient and her provider. Allow me to also say, my mother was herself a survivor of domestic violence. For instance, grandpa would tie grandma naked to a barbed wire fence for days. Mom relied on her older brother for protection yet when he left for the Army, she had no such protector. Underneath her cloak of “instability”, in a place most people did not look far enough to see, was a woman who desired to be loved. She did the best she knew how with what she had. She made mistakes. She was human - and I came to love and forgive her; to accept her into the enveloping arms of other women survivors. I was able to see the desperation and loving kindness hidden deep within and when reached she blossomed. For the spiritual out there I can only say, in my humble opinion, that God placed this burden upon me to sensitize myself to other’s pain and experience. As such, I’ve long dedicated my life to reaching out to others in my community be it for a meal, a handicap ramp, health care, companionship, or other which many may not have noticed and/or answered. Without such insight I may never have come to terms with my father’s decision of abandonment or my mother’s anguished pain – and the multiple needs of various individuals. “Judge not lest ye be judged.

Sijui ningefanyaje bila tovuti hii na msaada wa gumzo hili. Salma alikuwa mkarimu na mwenye kutoa maelezo, akiniongoza kupitia maswali yangu yote na wasiwasi wangu mkubwa. Nilikuwa na msongo mkubwa wa mawazo kabla ya kuanza gumzo hili, lakini alizungumza nami na kuniongoza hatua kwa hatua hadi wasiwasi wangu ukapungua kadri tulivyoendelea kuzungumza. Nilikuwa nimeogopa sana, lakini kisha akasema “tuko hapa pamoja nawe, hauko peke yako” na nilihisi kama ningezidiwa nilipokuwa nikiangalia kompyuta yangu. Niliposoma maneno hayo, sikujiisi tena peke yangu – ni ajabu kwamba mnaweza kuwa na moyo wa kujali na maneno ya kufariji mtu ambaye hamjawahi kukutana naye ana kwa ana ila kupitia skrini ya kompyuta. Najihisi kama naweza kufanya hili, na nimepata taarifa nilizokuwa natafuta pamoja na msaada ambao sikujua kuwa nilihitaji lakini nilihitaji kweli. Siwezi kueleza vya kutosha. Asanteni, asanteni, asanteni.

When I was worried with an unexpected pregnancy I reached out to safe2choose. They gave great information anytime I needed it- always checking in with me, giving me instructions, giving me peace of mind. I took the second set of pills (misoprostol) and within 30 minutes it started happening. I was at home and felt very comfortable and had a sense of relief. I would recommend this site to anybody!

I just wanted to say I’m thankful for this site. I was still able to get the references and guidance I needed to make an informed decision. I’m grateful for this opportunity. Also, if I could share one piece of information as well to the women who are considering this option: no one gets up in the morning and is happy to do this. They say “Okay, it’s time to be responsible and consider our alternatives, and make the right decisions for everyone at hand.” Remember that and stay strong. Thank you to safe2choose for providing care to women across the world.

safe2choose offered me the possibility to have an abortion in the privacy of my home. I had no effects after taking the first pill (Mifepristone) and 24 hours later I took the 4 pills recommended (Misoprostol). I started bleeding 2 hours later and had painful cramps every time I was passing blood clots. After a few hours I had diarrhea and passed the 6 weeks embryo. It looked like a white sac. It’s been 12 days and I’m still spotting a bit, but no pain after 3 days. I hope this helps the next woman that will choose to use safe2choose.

Niligundua kuwa nilikuwa na ujauzito wa wiki 4 na nikaamua kuumaliza. Ingawa Canada ilipitisha sheria inayo ruhusu utoaji mimba wa kitabibu kufanywa na madaktari wa familia, nilikuwa umbali wa saa 8 kutoka kituo cha matibabu. Nilipata taarifa mtandaoni na nikakutana na tovuti ya s2c; washauri walijibu maswali yangu yote ama kupitia barua pepe (majibu ya haraka) au kupitia gumzo la moja kwa moja kwenye tovuti yao. Nilimeza kidonge cha kwanza mapema asubuhi ya Ijumaa; sikuona dalili wala ishara yoyote. Jumamosi asubuhi, nilimeza tembe 2 za Ibuprofen 400mg kila kimoja, baada ya dakika 30 nikameza tembe zingine 4. Ndani ya saa moja nilipata maumivu makali ya tumbo yaliyokuwa yanakuja na kuondoka kwa saa chache za mwanzo (nilitumia pedi ya moto kujipatia faraja). Pia ndani ya saa moja nilianza kutokwa na damu kidogo, kisha damu nyekundu ang’avu ikifuatwa na mabonge mengi ya damu (nililazimika kubadilisha pedi kila baada ya saa 3–4). Nilikojoa damu na mabonge makubwa, na nilitapika baada ya saa 4 tangu kumeza vidonge. Mara moja baada ya hapo, ule hisia ya kuwa mjamzito ilipotea. Usiku wangu wa kwanza ulienda vizuri, niliamka mara chache tu kwenda chooni kubadilisha pedi, na bado niliona natokwa na mabonge ya damu. Siku ya pili nilipumzika kitandani, na kwa mara ya kwanza baada ya wiki 5 nilihisi kama mimi tena. Sikuwa na maumivu ya tumbo, na damu ilianza kuwa ya kawaida na karibu hakuna mabonge. Leo ni siku yangu ya tatu na karibu sijaona mabonge na nimegundua kuwa damu imepungua sana. safe2choose wamenipa uwezo. Nimewahi kutoa mimba hapo awali lakini hii ndiyo ilikuwa njia ya faragha zaidi, nafuu, na isiyohitaji muda mwingi. Niliifanya kwa starehe ya nyumbani bila haja ya kufunga (kama inavyohitajika kwenye utoaji mimba wa upasuaji), na bila haja ya kufanya ultrasound. Nawashukuru kutoka moyoni mwangu!!

Rafiki alinieleza kuhusu safe2choose na kwa kuwa nchini Poland hali ya utoaji mimba ni ngumu, sikuwa na wasiwasi kuwasiliana nao. Niliwatumia barua pepe na mengine yote yalikuwa rahisi kufuata. Umakini wa washauri pamoja na kujali kwao ndicho kitu ambacho nitashukuru daima. Ikiwa mwanamke mwingine atajikuta katika hali ya kuhitaji kumaliza ujauzito wake, ningependekeza huduma za safe2choose.

safe2choose was friendly and professional.

Nilikuwa na hofu sana, lakini kila kitu kimekuwa SAWA. Wafanyakazi wa safe2choose walinisaidia usiku kucha – wamekuwa WAZURI SANA!

Kila kitu kilikuwa kamilifu! Kwa uadilifu, upole na wema mkubwa. Kweli nzuri sana. Asante sana safe2choose!

Ninyi ndio bora zaidi mtandaoni. Nawapendekeza.

Nilikuwa nimeshikwa na butwaa, nikiwa na huzuni na msongo wa mawazo, hivyo nikaamua kuangalia mtandaoni kama ningeweza kupata msaada. Kisha nikakutana na safe2choose na ilikuwa kweli jambo bora kabisa. Sasa niko sawa.

Huduma ilikuwa ya kujali sana na yenye kuzingatia hisia. Walizingatia kila undani. Kazi nzuri, timu nzuri.

safe2choose ni shirika salama. Washauri hawatakuacha nyuma. Watajibu maswali yako yote na kila kitu unachohitaji kujua kuhusu jinsi ya kutumia vidonge vya kutoa mimba. Ni utaratibu salama sana.

Walikaa nami katika mchakato mzima, kuanzia mwanzo hadi mwisho. Hawakuniacha na walinisaidia kuelewa kwamba sikuhitaji kuogopa chochote kwa sababu wangenisaidia. Nilipata hilo kuwa la kutia moyo na kunituliza sana kwa kuwa hii ilikuwa mara yangu ya kwanza na nilikuwa na hofu kubwa. Ninapendekeza huduma zao kwa sababu ni salama na hutahisi upweke. Faraja na msaada wote unaohitaji watakupa. Ushauri wangu pekee ni kwamba gumzo la moja kwa moja liwe masaa 24/7 kwa sababu katika sehemu tofauti za dunia tofauti ya saa husababisha wanawake wengine wasipate msaada mara moja.

Sijawahi kukutana na watu wanaojali, wanaoelewa na kusaidia kama hawa katika maisha yangu yote. Ningependekeza huduma hii kwa mtu yeyote aliye katika hali hii ngumu. Nilikaa nyumbani na rafiki aliyenisaidia. Maumivu yalikuwa makali sana lakini taarifa nilizopewa zilitufahamisha nini cha kutarajia na zilinipa chaguo la namna ya kukabiliana nayo yote. Nawasihi yeyote atakayetumia njia hii asome taarifa ambazo safe2choose wanakupa, kweli zinasaidia.