Abortion Stories

I’m 23 years old and have a 6-month-old baby. I started my period right after giving birth, so I had no idea I was pregnant again until I went to the hospital and it was confirmed. When I consulted my doctor, I was given Ma-Kare pills. I took one on the first day, and four on the second day, and it worked successfully for me. Thank you so much for your assistance.

I was using implant for 3 years and after removing in one month, my husband came around at home from his work and we met sexually. He told me he isn't ready and we had to terminate it. It took us time to agree, but lastly we visit a medical center where I was given Misoprostol sublingually. Evacuation was done successfully and after I used contraceptves pills to prevent pregnancy.

I have a friend who is about 2 months and a few weeks pregnant, and she decided to have an abortion. She went to see a classmate who took her to a man who, according to her, sells effective abortion pills (Chinese medication with antibiotics). According to the man’s instructions, she was supposed to take the pills early in the morning before sunrise, and by the third day, the pregnancy would come out.After the consultation, my pregnant friend followed the treatment for three days, but unfortunately, nothing happened (no results). Things started to get worse: lower abdominal pain, constant fever, vomiting...Given how serious the situation was, we decided to go to the hospital, but because we didn’t have the money, another woman, a former midwife, prescribed a different medication: MISOFEM (4 tablets), which based on my research, helps complete a failed abortion.We bought the medicine, which cost more than 20,000 CFA francs.The next morning, she started the treatment at 6 a.m. with the first two tablets, then took the remaining two at 8 a.m., hoping to expel the contents by sunset, just as the woman had instructed. But unfortunately, there were no satisfying results—just abdominal pain and vomiting throughout the day.Panicked, we contacted the woman again and she told us to wait until the next day, but still nothing happened.Desperate, she and I decided to go see a doctor...

I couldn’t count my days after my last day of menstruation in February. Guess what, my menses never showed up the following month which was March. I was worried because I knew I wasn’t ready to be a mother to a third baby soon and my husband wasn’t happy about the news either.In Ghana, it’s very difficult to have easy access to abortion medication unless a medical practitioner gets it for you or a pharmacist gets it for you. So it was a bit tough for my husband and I dealing with it.I contacted a pharmacist friend of mine and he reached out to me. I had a successful one without any complications. However, there are instances I have taken abortion pills when I wasn’t pregnant but because of my body reactions, I thought I was pregnant. I had minor cramps with no blood flow at all.I’m just grateful that these medications are safe for most women.

Hi,I’m Valentia. I’m pregnant by my boyfriend, and he says he’s not ready yet to be a father for the second time. He says he has too many responsibilities since he already has a child with another woman. I just told him I’m pregnant. He says he won’t be able to take care of it, so I have to find a solution to this problem.

It was not a good experience at all, I had to request for an abortion, after I had an incomplete miscarriage at 2 months. I started bleeding with severe pains. So I was inquisitive about what to do and so I search on google till I accidentally bumped into safe2choose page, the counselor provided me with all the informations I needed but I had to return to my local clinic for MVA cos the tissues were still in my body. I actually thought for a sec, that safe2choose was an organization that give mental support for people who had miscarried their babies accidentally, but all the same the counselling was helpful. Thank you safe2choose.

My name is Rajni. I live in India. I have a husband and a daughter. We love each other a lot. We don't want another child, but I became pregnant. Both of us decided to talk about it and I took an abortion pill. It is done now, and I am fine.

In India, Tanya and her husband agreed that they were happy with their current life and another child would cause them financial strain, which is why they looked for safe abortion options and chose safe2choose to terminate their pregnancy. This is her testimonial and her abortion story.

It is very soothing and comforting to know that organizations like safe2choose have got your back. The moment I read their response to my email, I already felt so relieved and felt like they were by my side, telling me everything is going to be alright. They gave me the assurance that they would be there to help and assist every step of the way, no matter where you may be in the world. I have had anxieties for weeks, but the only time I started feeling better was when I felt safe2choose‘s solace wrapped around me.

I really had no clue what to expect with an online organization that helps you with such a sensitive situation, but it exceeded my expectations by far. General information was given and every outcome and what to expect was covered. When I had concerns, I was responded to via email within 24hrs (of course I had a crazy time difference being in South Korea but I always woke up to a speedy reply). I couldn’t have asked for a better company and support; it felt like the counselor was here with me.

In need of a safe abortion, I searched for different options on the internet and I found safe2choose. I contacted the counselors by email and initiated the online consultation, then spoke with them via live chat. The counselors were very kind and respectful to me before, during and after the process. After this experience with safe2choose, without a doubt, I would recommend you guys to anybody that needs a safe abortion.

I don’t have much to say, just that safe2choose exceeded my expectations with a mixture of their services and their clarity with medications and their kindness. I thank you guys a lot, in my case I contacted them via email and I did an online consultation.

Allow me to begin by saying for years I wanted to advocate but feared being ostracized and/or hurting my potential to advance socially and economically, but now with the overturning of Roe v Wade I realize I must speak out and stand up for individual rights, freedoms and dignity. I had an abortion when I was around 15 years old, but it started long before then. . . When I was in grade school (probably 2nd or 3rd grade) an uncle convinced our babysitter he had my parent’s permission to take me with him to work – Not! We did go to his work site; however, he later took me to his place where he sexually fondled me. He then took me to the restaurant where my mother was working. I recall being afraid, holding tightly to my pants. Mom and I went to the bathroom where I told her what happened. She immediately made an excuse to my uncle, left work and took me to the hospital where a male doctor put me on a table, pulled down my panties and yanked my legs into the air. What was happening to me? This was all so scary and no one was telling me anything. We then returned home where the police and my father showed up to arrest the uncle. Lights were flashing, father was ready to kill, it was like an angry disturbed beehive and so very disturbingly scary for a 3rd grader. Dad told me years later the officer had said something about giving him his gun were he not an officer. I was kept at home, not allowed to go to school. Finally, we went to court. Mom’s side of the family, so I was later told by my father when I was older, wanted charges dropped – after all I was fine. Dad, said “No.” I recall swearing on the Bible and taking the stand. Little girls didn’t say such things or have the words for what was being asked, so I just pointed to my private parts. It was all so scary. Uncle went to jail; news was printed in the papers and I went back to school. I felt all eyes were on me. The teachers were very careful with me, children whispered and pointed. Fast forward to adolescence. Mom and dad divorced. However, dad divorced not only mom but anything and anyone to do with her. He would not set foot in the same town, he no longer sent Birthday or Christmas Cards, he did not visit or invite me to visit him or my twin brother. I recall having hitch hiked 150 miles round trip just to see him (I missed him) and perceived my reception as one of a dissident, trouble maker. I made up a lie that I was in town as part of a school trip, he and my twin brother knew this to be untrue, and allowed me to get back on the highway to hitch hike back home to mom (what kind of father does this?!). As an adult I came to understand cutting himself off from all things “mom” was the only way my father could have a life, and I’m glad now that he made that choice. It must have been a difficult one, yet the right one for him and my twin; at least he and my twin broke the cycle and established solid families of virtuous character, but “Why” I ask myself was I painted as “white trash” and abandoned rather than supported and loved? It was during this time my mother remarried and her husband attempted to have his way with me sexually while she was working the night shift. I ran. The next day she stood with him, stating it was a misunderstanding. She then sent me, from MT to CA, to live with and care for her paraplegic, alcoholic brother. That did not last long. He had already lost numerous caretakers secondary to his being cantankerous. Social Services stepped in and I was sent to various relatives in different states until mom was able to locate another relative, a traveling salesman, who agreed to transport me back to MT. The trip required an overnight stay at a hotel. I recall him speaking with his wife, my aunt’s daughter, on the phone telling her we were fine and he’d gotten two rooms. That, of course, was a lie. One room, one bed. I felt trapped and afraid. I was at his mercy, having no other way home, no money or resources, or others I could turn to. Back then adolescents weren’t informed how to speak up or to who. I don’t recall much about that night but the next day I was so pressed up against the passenger side door I thought it might spring open at any moment and dump me onto the asphalt at 80 mph. I ran. I ran to a boy I knew in the college dorms in a nearby town. I felt “safe” to some small degree. I stayed with him in his dorm while he completed final exams. Yes, we had sex, and after finals he took me home, back to mother. Later I discovered I was pregnant and, with my agreement, mom arranged for an abortion. What you’re not hearing here is the discord and dysfunction of living with mother and having no or little support from nurturing others. For instance, one time we had an argument as parents and children often do. I imagine her reaction was to show she was going to get the “upper hand.” She reacted by having the police show up at a birthday party one block from our house, after having spoken with my girlfriend’s mom to assure her I was there and everything was fine, to pick me up as a runaway. Can you imagine police showing up at your daughter’s birthday party to arrest a friendly young girl? The parents were shocked and the girls were crying as I was led to the squad car; that’s one party she’ll never forget! I was jailed overnight. Dad was no help, he said “I had made my bed. . .” Teachers came to my rescue. Rather than go to a “Girls Home” I rented two upstairs bedrooms from someone, worked 20 hours/week and put myself through high school. I wasn’t going to give my stepfather a second crack at me nor take mom’s abuse and no one else, including my father, were coming forward. I was an adolescent without nurturing support to grow into a wholesome adult. Adolescents do not have life experiences to draw from. People likely saw a dissident, troubled teen. They did not see a young girl struggling to grow and survive in a discordant environment. To have brought a life into the world when I was not capable of caring for myself would only harm that life and mine. Statistics indicate it takes three generations to overcome domestic violence. I chose to end this cycle and create a life for myself that would have worth not only for myself but the world around me. As such, I was eventually able to garner an advanced degree in health care that served humanity. Teen pregnancies are fraught with health, social and economic consequences that devastate our society. Imposing long reaching psychological trauma upon an already abused teen is unconscionable and in no way serves humanity. I’m reminded of Generals who sacrifice lives for the many. I, and others like me, are no different. It took decades and much counseling to overcome, develop, heal and grow; a process that may not have happened were I to carry and give birth at such a tender, vulnerable age. We need more compassion and understanding. Yet, I will say I believe more guidelines may be useful. Don’t overturn Roe v Wade, provide guidelines when ending a pregnancy may be legal. It provides protection for society at large and is a very personal socio-economic health decision that should rest with the patient and her provider. Allow me to also say, my mother was herself a survivor of domestic violence. For instance, grandpa would tie grandma naked to a barbed wire fence for days. Mom relied on her older brother for protection yet when he left for the Army, she had no such protector. Underneath her cloak of “instability”, in a place most people did not look far enough to see, was a woman who desired to be loved. She did the best she knew how with what she had. She made mistakes. She was human - and I came to love and forgive her; to accept her into the enveloping arms of other women survivors. I was able to see the desperation and loving kindness hidden deep within and when reached she blossomed. For the spiritual out there I can only say, in my humble opinion, that God placed this burden upon me to sensitize myself to other’s pain and experience. As such, I’ve long dedicated my life to reaching out to others in my community be it for a meal, a handicap ramp, health care, companionship, or other which many may not have noticed and/or answered. Without such insight I may never have come to terms with my father’s decision of abandonment or my mother’s anguished pain – and the multiple needs of various individuals. “Judge not lest ye be judged.

I don’t know what I would do without this website and this chat support. Salma was kind, and informative, walking me through all of my questions and biggest concerns. I was so stressed before beginning this chat but she talked and walked me through it that my anxiety lessened as it went on. I was honestly so scared but then she said “we are here with you, you’re not alone” and I almost lost it staring it at my computer. I read that and didn’t feel alone– how amazing that you guys have the consideration and the words to comfort someone you’ve never met through a computer screen. I feel like I can do this and I was given the information I was seeking and support I didn’t know I needed but I did. I can’t express it enough. Thank you thank you thank you.

When I was worried with an unexpected pregnancy I reached out to safe2choose. They gave great information anytime I needed it- always checking in with me, giving me instructions, giving me peace of mind. I took the second set of pills (misoprostol) and within 30 minutes it started happening. I was at home and felt very comfortable and had a sense of relief. I would recommend this site to anybody!

I just wanted to say I’m thankful for this site. I was still able to get the references and guidance I needed to make an informed decision. I’m grateful for this opportunity. Also, if I could share one piece of information as well to the women who are considering this option: no one gets up in the morning and is happy to do this. They say “Okay, it’s time to be responsible and consider our alternatives, and make the right decisions for everyone at hand.” Remember that and stay strong. Thank you to safe2choose for providing care to women across the world.

safe2choose offered me the possibility to have an abortion in the privacy of my home. I had no effects after taking the first pill (Mifepristone) and 24 hours later I took the 4 pills recommended (Misoprostol). I started bleeding 2 hours later and had painful cramps every time I was passing blood clots. After a few hours I had diarrhea and passed the 6 weeks embryo. It looked like a white sac. It’s been 12 days and I’m still spotting a bit, but no pain after 3 days. I hope this helps the next woman that will choose to use safe2choose.

I found out I was 4 weeks pregnant and decided to end it. Although, Canada passed law allowing medical abortion to be performed by family doctors; I was 8hrs away from the medical center. I googled online and stumbled upon s2c site; the consultants answered all my questions either via email (fast response) or the live chat on their website. I took the first pill on early Friday morning; I had no signs or symptoms. Early Saturday, I took 2 Ibuprofen 400mg each, after 30 minutes I took the additional 4 pills. Within an hour I had really bad cramps that were on and off for the first couple of hours (I used heating pad for comfort), also within the hour I started spotting than it turned to bright red blood with tons of clots (I had to change my pad every 3-4hrs). I vomited 4hrs after I took the pills. Immediately after, the feeling of being pregnant was gone. My first night went well, I only had to get up to the bathroom couple of extra times to change my pad, I noticed that I was still passing cloths. The 2nd day I rested in my bed, for the first time in 5 weeks I felt like myself again. I had no cramps, and my bleeding was starting to get normalized with almost no cloths. Today is my day 3rd day and I hardly saw any clots and I noticed that my bleeding was faint. safe2choice empowered me. I had abortion before but by far this was the most private, cheap, and less time consuming. I did it at the comfort of my house with no need to fast (like required in surgical abortion), and no need for ultrasound. Thank you from the bottom of my heart !!

A friend told me about safe2choose and since in Poland the situation with abortion is complicated, I didn’t hesitate to contact them. I sent them an email and everything else was easy to follow. The attention from the counselors, as well as their concern is what I will forever be grateful for. If another woman ever finds herself in need to end her pregnancy, I would recommend them to the services from safe2choose.

safe2choose was friendly and professional.

I was really scared, but everything has been OK. The safe2choose staff helped me all night long – they have been SUPER!

Everything was perfect! With such integrity, softness, and kindness. Really very good. Thanks a lot, safe2choose!

You are the best online. I recommend you.

I was stranded, depressed and stressed so I decided to check online if I could get any help. Then I happened to bump into safe2choose and it was surely the best thing ever. I am okay now.

The service was really caring and considerate. They had an eye for every detail. Great job, great team.

safe2choose is a safe organization. The counselors won’t leave you behind. They will answer all your questions and everything you need to know about how to use the abortion pills. It is a very safe procedure.

They stayed with me throughout the entire process, start to finish. They didn’t leave me and helped me understand that I didn’t need to fear anything because they would support me. I found that to be very comforting and relaxing as this was my first time and my fear level was very high. I recommend their services because they are safe and you will not feel alone. All the comfort and support you need they will give you. My only suggestion is that the live chat be 24/7 because in different parts of the world the time difference makes it so that some women won’t get support right away.

I have never dealt with more caring, understanding and helpful people in all my life. I would recommend this service to anyone that is in this difficult situation. I stayed at home with a friend who supported me. The pain got quite intense but with the information I was given let me know what to expect and gave me options on how to deal with it all. I advise for anyone that uses this method to read the information that safe2choose give you, it really does help.